I would like to introduce you to Sadija A. Smiley! She is the founder of Stillborn and Infant Loss Support (SAILS), a non profit organization committed to supporting families who have suffered miscarriages, stillbirths, or any other pregnancy losses. In the midst of her pain and grief, Sadija turned it into her purpose to serve others who’ve experienced similar losses. She is a light and the true definition of selflessness. Learn more and check her interview below!

“Raising the SAILS’ Gala on Friday November 22, 6pm in Silver Spring, MD. A heartfelt gathering dedicated to supporting families navigating the difficult journey of the loss of a baby. Seats and sponsorships available using this link https://bit.ly/3LgA2Wh

For those who may not know, can you share your story and how it correlates to why you created your organization, Stillborn and Infant Loss Support (SAILS)?

My journey began with the profound loss of my daughter, Ivyanna Salene, who was stillborn in 2003 when I was 36 weeks pregnant. The grief was overwhelming and left me searching for ways to cope and find solace. This personal experience of loss became the driving force behind the creation of the nonprofit organization Stillborn And Infant Loss Support (SAILS) in 2017. I wanted to honor Ivyanna’s memory by providing support and resources to others facing similar tragedies. SAILS was founded to offer compassion, understanding, and practical help to families navigating the pain of stillbirth and pregnancy loss. I really want individuals and families on this journey to know that they are not alone. 

What services and programs do you offer, and how are you supporting and helping parents navigate grief after enduring such a loss?

SAILS provides a range of services designed to support families through their grief journey. Our Grief Support Program includes an 8-week bereavement program using the Grief Recovery Method, annual events like the SAILS Summit, and monthly online community gatherings. We offer financial assistance through the Ivy Angel Fund to help with burial and memorial costs and provide keepsake boxes and cuddle cots to honor and remember lost babies. Our Online Remembrance Wall and Loss Mom’s Open Hour further support families by offering spaces for remembrance, healing, and community.

Often times, we blame ourselves for the things that go wrong in life. However, we can’t control many things that happen to us in life. Throw grief into the mix, and it’s a cocktail of a plethora of emotions. Personally, I suffered two miscarriages before, and it was quite painful. What has your journey been like with managing grief and getting to a place of healing so that you can be of service to others? 

Thank you for sharing such a personal and painful experience. I am deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your two babies and the intense pain you’ve endured. Managing grief has been an ongoing challenge for me as well. After the loss of my daughter Ivyanna, I grappled with profound emotional pain and self-blame. However, channeling my grief into creating SAILS has been a crucial part of my healing process. Supporting others who face similar losses and building a community around shared experiences has given me purpose and strength. I hope you have found a compassionate support network and a village to aid in your healing journey.

When you’re not busy, how are you practicing self-care?

When I’m not busy, I focus on practicing self-care, though I’m still learning and it’s not always easy. I don’t always get it right, but I strive to do better each day. Self-care is crucial for maintaining balance and well-being, so I prioritize activities that bring me joy and relaxation. This includes spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness, engaging in hobbies, taking naps, working out, sitting still, and taking time alone. I also make sure to set aside moments for rest and reflection, ensuring I stay connected to my own needs and emotions. 

Where can people connect with you and your business? 

People can connect with me and Stillborn And Infant Loss Support (SAILS) through our website at www.bornintosilence.org, where you can learn more about our programs and services. We are also active on social media, including Facebook and Instagram @bornintosilence, where we share updates and resources. Feel free to reach out directly via our contact page or DM for any inquiries or support.

Before you go, drop a gem or some great advice for our readers out there. Feel free to say whatever compels you. I like to call this section UnpackingHer Thoughts. Let them know, Queen!

In your journey of grief, remember this: be kind to yourself. Grief can be overwhelming, but it’s important to allow yourself the space to feel, heal, and breathe through it. Self-care isn’t just about bubble baths and quiet moments; it’s about honoring your needs, giving yourself grace, and knowing it’s okay to not be okay. There is a unique beauty in bereavement—it’s where we honor the love we’ve lost and transform it into strength. Take it one day at a time, and remember, your journey to healing is just as valuable as the love you carry in your heart.

Thank you so much, Sadija!